Priortizing immedite family members over other relatives

Question:
I have read many books/articles and visited many sites. I wrote to them many questions but couldn’t get satisfactory answer.

Please help me with that as I’m very confused, and it is effecting my concentration as I have 2 kids.

What should be the foremost priority and responsibility of a married girl; her husband, her children or all the other family members? I know it’s a given take relationship and, no doubt, I’m fulfilling it but still I have to know what are my responsibilities priority wise.

Please be precise. I’m asking this because as I was 2 years old when my father passed away. My mother pleased everyone by helping them by doing ‘khidmat’ even she was criticized a lot but still she made her in-laws happy, so I saw all this but now when I try to please everyone expectation have gone up and I’m still doing but its affecting my relationship with my husband and children as I get tired and due to criticism I feel low. That’s why I wanted to know what married women responsibilities are?

I will be very thankful and pleased and relieved if you answer my question.

Response:
Most certainly, your first priority are your husband and children. In case someone has parents, they too come within the scope of top priority people. The rest of them should also be treated well. However, everyone else is secondary to these relations. In case you have time, stamina, and resources to treat others too, you might do so as well, but not at the expense of your husband, children, and parents.

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