Father objects to a marriage proposal because of low salary

Question:
I recieved a proposal from a guy and I want to get married there but my father does not agree and says that his pay is too low. I know that that person is good in terms of character and religion but my father gives a lot of importance to worldly affairs. Is there any dua that can help me in both ways, thats is, in getting married to him as well as increasing his pay?

Response:
I would recommend that you seek God Almighty's advice through regularly praying the dua of istikhara. If you start feeling strongly that you should get married to the person on repeating the dua several times, then try to convince your father. In case, you feel that your dua has made you feel disinclined from the idea, then, of course, you don't need to proceed any further.

I would recommend that you should not take any step so long as your father is not convinced. Pray to the Almighty that your father gets convinced. Tell him that you don't find a problem in the low income of the person. Also tell him that incomes fluctuate over time. It is not necessary that if you get married to a person whose income is good now that it would remain so in the future as well. It is the character of an individual that should matter more. However, one canot ignore the question of the status of the two families. If there is a big difference in the status of the two families, it can be a cause of difficulty for both of you after marriage.

While you convince your father, don't get in touch with the fellow directly. Keep the indirect contact also to the minimum. It is not desirable that once you are inclined to marry a person that you should meet him frequently. You are at the moment non-mahrems for each other and therefore what is allowed at best is that you can talk to each other for something necessary while in the company of others. Meeting alone should not be a part of your agenda while you are still not married to the person.

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